Fun fact: Finals are in two weeks.
Fun fact 2: I’ll be taking the MCAT within the next couple of months.
Fun fact 3: I haven’t been extremely accountable in my own finances this past semester.
Fun fact 4: My car speaker started making this buzzing sound a month ago.
I could honestly go on and on with the fun facts… and every little thing that is stressing me out. I could also elaborate on each stress factor listed above.
- Finals are in two weeks, and I have this pressure to make an A on each test because that’s the bar I set for myself before the semester started. However, I haven’t been extremely focused, and quite frankly pretty lazy, this semester.
- I have programmed myself to believe that if I don’t make a certain score on the MCAT that my future will be ruined. I won’t get into medical school. My life will be over, and I haven’t spent the past couple years studying/trying for nothing. I can barely even find time to study for it while being occupied with my classes and involvement.
- I also have eaten out too much, spent too much money on gas, bought too many groceries that just expire, indulged in spontaneous unnecessary items e.g. clothes, technology, accessories (planners, unlimited amount of color pens), etc. I feel like saying no to someone when they ask you to eat out at lunch or dinner is soooo hard. My bank account went into overdraft because I was too scared to look at the amount I had in my account. Also, I’m out of school dining dollars. Yeeep!
- I don’t even want to drive anymore because of the weird buzzing sound in my car. I feel like I’ve been so careless on taking care of my belongings — and I don’t want to tell my parents about it. Honestly, I feel like my car is falling apart, just like my life!!!!
You probably have your own stress factors and a have list of things you can list; and can elaborate just like I did. I’m thinking about all of this, and I wonder to myself how do I get out? How do I stop feeling so overwhelmed? Does everyone go through the overwhelming things like this? Is mine worse? Is mine not worse? What do I do?
Here is the conclusion I came to: EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY.
First off, the cliche thing to say since Thanksgiving just passed is that you and I have so much to be thankful for!!! Seriously. I go to a wonderful college. My family and friends are so supportive. I have a car that takes me places. My MacBook works and allows me to write this blog. My phone alarm is going to wake me tomorrow morning. My roommates are really cool. I drank like 3 bottles of water today. I mean I could go on and on!! As college students, I really do feel like the tiniest things stress us out – and it shouldn’t. It’s normal to be stressed, but not to the extent where it consumes us. I hate it when I’m overwhelmingly stressed. I become this person who is selfish, recluse, and simply, not me. I don’t smile as much. I don’t want to engage in conversations as much. Frankly, I don’t have as much motivation to do something. We seriously have so much to be thankful for to be that stressed out!!!
Secondly… UGH I AM JUST SO DRAMATIC. Is my life over if I make a B? No. Is my life over if I don’t get the score I want on my MCAT? No. Is my life over if my dad gets mad about me for not taking care of my speaker? No. Do I tell myself and others that my life is going to over if something doesn’t go the way I planned? Yes. <– That is the problem!!! You know how people say smiling makes you happier? Well, me telling myself my life is going to over if doesn’t go my way makes the situation significantly worse in my head; it could’ve been a 4 on the intensity scale, but my dramatic-ness just increased it to a 7. Ultimately, I find myself way too sensitive to pain and just need to get over it. It’s okay to have something challenging going my way. I need to stop avoiding it and stop procrastinating altogether. I am not making my situation any better.
Third thing: that person next to you in class, on the transit, ordering Starbucks in front of you… all are probably stressed about the similar things to you. You aren’t alone. College is hard. College is challenging. College is an obstacle course. And we are all going through it together. It doesn’t help any of us to consume ourselves by negative emotions. Instead of being stressed about something, we should do something about it. Something that has really helped me lately is grabbing a sheet of paper and making two columns: 1 for things I’m stressed out, 1 for what I’m going to do about it. Instead of avoiding something or constantly thinking about it, I’m going to take action and move forward. It has honestly helped me so much! If you personally write down your plan of action, it will motivate you to get it crossed off your list. This also doesn’t allow you to make excuses for anything.
For example: Not doing well in a class? 1. Why? Do you go to class? (No?-start going.) (Yes?-take better notes.) Other options: Go to the professor’s office hour. Find a tutor. Go to Supplemental Instruction. Text others for advice. Look on youtube/online/Khan academy. Ask your peers.
All in all: If you tell yourself you can do it and don’t doubt yourself as much, you will likely see a positive change: in your emotions/attitude and the outcome. Show those little stressors who’s boss and take action. Life isn’t over when something doesn’t go your way && don’t be dramatic, procrastinate, and make excuses!! YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU SET YOUR HEART AND MIND TO. Honestly, even if I don’t do as well on finals in the end as I hope, I know that I truly gave it my all, worked hard, and did my best.
Lastly, I want to conclude with this: Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God’s got ya!!! ❤